When is a good time to start dating after your spouse has died?

I asked this question "When is a good time to start dating after your spouse has died?" on Yahoo! Answers so that I can hear what some peoples opinion are.

Click this link to read what Longhorn, tatersma1, and shortmama7j have to say in response to the question I posed.

Christmas 2008

It's that time again when everything in the world seems alright. A time when we fell all warm inside even if it's 30 degrees outside. This is the second Christmas since my father passed, but the first Christmas where I feel good. Even though daddy is not around in body I can feel him in spirit.

My house was filled to the gills with family and friends this year - the biggest ever! We were all having so much fun opening gifts, chatting with each other and drinking eggnog spiked with Brandy.

Would you believe that my mother invited Drew to come over on Christmas? WTF! She is totally rushing into this and I do not like it one bit. I wish he would go the fuck away. I even thought of committing deviant acts to try to remove him from my life, but that is not who I am. Even thought of confronting his children and telling them what is going on with their daddy and my mom. He has not told them yet "because it's too soon." No shit Sherlock! It's too F'ing soon!

Even though Drew was around I was able to ignore his ass and pay attention to the children, my family and friends, and of course my booze. It turned out to be pretty good.

Mom Dates Again

My father passed away on 10th of January 2007 which would make it almost two years since he has left us. Last month (November) my mother started hanging out with a man that I knew. She started comforting him a few months prior when his wife died of cancer in June.

Last week mom came to me and said, "I have something to tell you." I knew that I was not going to like what she had to say. I knew by her tone. "Yeah?" I replied.
"Drew and I are officially dating now." she revealed.
"I figured as much"
"Do you have a problem with this?"
"I thought I did. Yes. Yes I do." I replied
She just looked at me waiting for me to continue.

I quickly thought of the nicest way of saying what I wanted to tell her. I said, "I'm not ready to see you with someone else." What I really wanted to say was..."Yes I have a fucking problem! Duh! Of course I do. What the hell do you think it is? Jesus Christ dad has not even been dead for two years! ...And this Drew fella, his wife just died 6 months ago! I don't know who's worse; you or him!?"

I'm disgusted with them. I'm angry at mom. I feel like she is a traitor.

I know all the other side of things already. I know that she has been lonely and I'm sure the same goes for him, but I honestly don't give a damn because I still think that it is wrong. Just because you don't have a significant other does not mean you cannot be happy and not feel lonely. I think it's bullshit and I'm clearly pissed.

Another one taken by Cancer

I was away in Abaco and when I returned to Nassau I learnt that another one had been taken by cancer. When I was living in Little Blair Estates the neighbours behind me moved out; they moved somewhere in the States. The new neighbours, The Albury's, moved in and I got to know them very well. It was a family of four consisting of a mother (Christine), a father (Drew), and two young boys (Christian & Stephan). I would go over to their house and play with them, swim in their pool and just hang out. Fond memories. They would also go to the same church I attended.

Christine Albury was there for us when my father past away. She was always there to give a word of encouragement. I knew she was sick, but I did not know how bad. Anyway, when I got the news that her time had come (And i might add that it came to soon), I shed tears for her. I miss her. She was a wonderful person and she will be missed by many.

Love you Christine :)